Keeping Up With the Relationships / Ihmissuhteiden Ylläpidosta

An old friend of mine send me a message

Asking how I was doing

When answering

He explained me

That he was testing how many would answer

How many of his old friends were interested of keeping up the connection

This made me wonder

What is this that prevents us keeping up the connection?

I know myself

I'm lousy at keeping up with my friends

I won't call so often or send message just to ask how they are doing

And my friends know this too

Obviously

I simply feel home by myself

I have always somethings going on

I manage to fill my days with all kind of little things I'm interested of

And even without trying
Honestly

I'm rarely bored

But sometimes it feels lonely too

Not seeing anybody in several days

In the other hand people often also contact me

So my need of connection to other people will fill

Of course those whom do not contact me and wait me to contact will suffer

Years ago I decided to change this behavior

I wanted to be in more connection with the people

Whom had left some kind of mark in my soul during my life

People whom meant something to me

I made a New Years promise

That once a week

I would ask at least one friend to have a coffee with me

And at least once a week

I would ask one far distance friend how he or she was doing

Well

Like all New Year promises

Some weeks I have been able to remember this promise

And some weeks not

What made me forget?

The everyday life

Our days are so full of all kind of little things

That some weeks it feels impossible to find time to have one cup of coffee with a friend

We have time to do the laundry

To read a book

To prepare a meal

Hang out in socialmedia

Worry about the future

Blame oneself about the past

Make deep analyzes why our romantic relationships with men/women are doomed

A lot of time for the little things

That make us say outloud

Oh, I would love to, but I don't have time

But after all

There is always time

Because time is an illusion

Time is an excuse

It is all about prioritizing your time

For what do you want use your time

In nearby relationships

With people whom are somehow related to your everyday life

This is easier

Yes, I can do the dishes later and have a cup of coffee with you today

But with long distance relationships it's harder

You remember the people

How could you even forget them

They have been important part of your everyday life at some point

You will always carry a memory of that time in your heart

And they pop up from deep of your minds memory boxes time to time

When some happening reminds you of them

Or some song, smell, feeling or material thing

In that moment you think of them

Wonder how they are doing and say to yourself

Yes, I need to call them or write a letter

And in the next moment
When the cat is meowing for supper

Or the pasta is boiling over

The thought of calling or writing a letter will vanish from your mind

As suddenly as it had came

I would love to say to myself that I will do better in the future

But I'm also little bit afraid

That I won't manage to keep up my promise to myself this time either

But again if I won't even try

I will never know

And those connections to long distance relationships

That are surviving only with the memory of past time

Will little by little faint away

On the other hand
Some people are only meant to briefly pass by in our life

They will give us something memorable

Guide us to new direction

Give us strength to carry on

And we will always remember them  for that

But maybe they felt it different

Maybe for them it was only a passing moment among others

You never know

What the future holds

But by keeping up with the relationships that mean something to you

You will find out

Which ones are the ones

Meant to last

I encourage you to write or call to somebody dear to you

Just to ask how he or she is doing

And listen them when they tell you

Be present for them

Show them he or she matters

Finders Keep.. Or Is it? / Löytäjä Saa Pitää.. Vai Saako?

Somewhere in Lapland

On the one of my adventures I found this hidden gem

So beautiful

Standing on the meadow

Surrounded by flowers

I assumed this one was abandoned too

Like so many other old house

Sense this one was almost collapsed

Like too many other old house

The door was loosely locked

Again I was wondering

Where goes the line of trespassing

When it is breaking in

And when it is a friendly visit

The law says it is always trespassing when you go in

No matter if the door is open or closed

And I understand this

There is too much people whom don't know how to respect the old house

They brake windows to get in

Make a mess inside

And take all kind of old things with them from the house

For these kinda things there is a simple term

It's called burklary

There is a simple code for people wanting to visit old places

Take only photographes

Leave only foot prints

Simple as that

Then the other thing is

What is 'abandoned'

Old house or cottage that looks like there has been nobody in decades

Can be still somebody's summer house

It would be wise to find out the history of the place

Before you go in

But like me so often

I come a cross with the places by accident

In this case I try to use common sense

I always also ask from the house if I'm welcome

Usually the house welcomes me and shows me the way in

But sometimes not

Then I respect that and continue my way

When I was younger

I was too thirsty for adventures

And too blind to stop and listen

So I made a way to get in this old house

While inside I got this really bad vibes

The whole house was rejecting me

There was a lot of scary stuff

And stuff that where obviously stolen

And I realized there has been somebody

Somebody I wouldn't want to meet

I left the place and never came back

Afterwords I felt bad

I had broke my code and the common code

I had actually done something that wasn't fun anymore

So you live, you learn

I never posted the pics from that house anywhere

and I never will

So now I was standing on one door again

Asking if I'm welcome

This time I was

The house was in a really bad shape

The basement was totally collapsed

I was stepping super carefully on the floor

Numbers at the house base stonewall tells that the house has been build 1938-50

Note on the bench tells that somebody has been visiting the owner 1983

Latest newspaper was the Hufvudstadsbladet from 1994

From the internet I couldn't find any information about the house

So it remains a mystery house for me

Exploring the main floor is always nice and exiting

But going higher or lower is always a bit scary

Especially if the house can collapse in any minute

Do you rather get burried

Or take a leap of faith with the upstairs floor

This is always a nice mind game to play alone in the spooky old house

This time also there was no ghosts making them selves visible for me

Not even afterwords from the pictures

Which is also kinda spooky when you see something in the pic

That wasn't there when taking the pic

So this seemed very peaceful house

It just stands there in the middle of the flower meadow

With the bright colors little by little fainting from it's walls

I'm not going to reveal the location of this place

So let just say it is somewhere in Lapland

Local people probably know the place already

Sense I definitely wan't the first one visiting there

(Some ladies had typed on the piece of paper that they were here)

But I hope you will enjoy the beautiness of this old house through my pictures

And maybe understand why I sometimes bend the law for the pics and stories

The Northern Fire

Playing with fire

Wanting to go higher

Dance till you starve

Under the stars

Above the northern fire

Higher and higher

Feeling lighter

Mightier

The strongest warrior

New day rises

Burning out the fires

Feet on the ground

Can you light another one

For the sun

Get Naked / Alasti

Get naked

A writing on the wall

Followed by a snail

What's it message

I wonder

Laying on a bed

In a clean looking hotel

In the heart of a dirty city

Get naked slowly

Annoying snail

The bed is soft

Sheets smell fresh 'n clean

I hope they are too

I remember the news

About five star hotels

Wore bed sheets were made bed again

How it is in this kinda hotel

In this kinda city

Where snails on the walls advice to get naked

Where they pay you to get naked

Where dirty is love

Vicious love

I love this city

Fairytale Gone Bad

Abandoned Places

Somewhere in Eastern-Finland

 This is the end

You know

The dreams you had

Went all wrong

You got to a point I can't stand

I've had it to the limit; this can't be your land

I ain't more than a minute away of falling

You can't cry the paint to stay

You can't find a neat way

And slowly realize

I'm no more on your side

Out of my sight

Out of my kind

Out of the years

You can't rewind

You need to swallow all your pride

And just leave this mess behind

Out of my beds

Out of my steps

Out of the dreams you had

They are bad

Tell them it's you who made me sad

Tell them the fairytale gone bad

Another night and I leak

They all make mistakes and so did these

But they did something that can never be turned right

Find a new one to ruin

Leave and don't look back

I won't follow

I have nothing left

It's the end of my time

*******

The original lyrics are from

Sunrise Avenue's song Fairytale gone bad

Ps. If you like abandoned places

Here's some more!

Abandoned Dreams

The abandoned town of Crownmountain

An old Finnish school

The Cycle of Autumn / Syksyn Kierto

Taas yksi vuoden kierto takana

Taas yhden kierron enemmän vakava

Mitä

Enkä ole vakava

Mutta edelleen pakana

Peittona Äiti Maan lakana

Ehkä viisaampi ja vanhempi

Ainakin vanhempi

Monta kokemusta rikkaampi

Vähän taas valmiimpi

Sisimmästään kauniimpi

Edelleen haaveilija

Oman elämänsä seikkailija

Toteutuiko haaveista monikaan

Tuskimpavaan

Ehkä kuitenkin lähempänä toimintaa

On jotkin haaveet

Jos oikein kurottaa

Mitä tuleva kierto tuo tullessaan

Sitä talven tullen voi vain aavistaa

Luonnon kanssa lumivaipassa horrostaa

Sydämessä kutoa haaveitaan

Uusia vaatteitaan

Kevään tullen päälleen sovittaa

Moldy Home Exhibition / Kotihome Näyttely

Mäntyharju, Finland

A cultural art-day in Mäntyharju

Me and my sister decided to spend a bohemian day

So went to see this odd art exhibition at our home village

The name of exhibition was

Katajainen kansa - Taidetta purkutalossa

And the basic idea was

That an abandoned or emptied

Depends on whom you are asking

Block building turns in to an art exhibition

Cool idea!

And a lot of space for an odd art!

Every apartment was in use of a different artist

Here's some of my favorite pieces!

Enjoy!

An illusion of having the home

A tree house or a house tree?

Floating pieces

An old iron ring

Living together

Outside

Whales and the eternity in a living room

Shadow of nature

Everything ends to the Baltic Sea

Alone with TV

B&W

Cowboys and Dead Girls

And now

When you are all excited

I'm gonna tell you

That the names of the art pieces are not real

I made them up

Based on my feelings looking at them

And to be honest

There were a lot of more of them

Than I have photographed here

But these were the only ones I wanted to even show you

Most of the apartments and the "art" in them were

Well

Just empty or lame

If I could have a whole apartment

As my canvas for creating

I would use colors, lights, sound

Everything to create a whole illusion

Where the visitor could sink in

But

Apparently

For some artists

One stuffed whale toy

In the middle of an empty room is enough

And I can respect that

But just not enjoy of that

Pinching a nose

All together

We had fun in there

Laughing and wondering

Always little bit exited

What will we found

Behind the next apartment door

Only down side was

That whole building was molded

We had breathing difficulties

And headache

Both were going worse and worse

 The longer we were in the building

By the evening

The symptoms were almost gone

But the sad fact is

That not long ago

There were still people living in that building

How many of them have symptoms?

And how many more

There is homes like this

Where people are still trying to live in

Asthmatic Art Lover

The demolition machines will arrive at 11.9.2017
And that's the end of the building